A person’s mental health is important, especially in a marriage. Having poor mental health can affect your spouse and your relationship negatively, and can lead to arguments and disagreements, among other issues. Luckily, marriage counseling can help to improve your mental health in many ways, and we’ll discuss a few reasons how and why in this article.
It can Help Clear the Air
One thing that can hurt your mental health is keeping your emotions bottled up. If you have an issue with your partner, you may keep it to yourself and not address it to keep the peace. However, forcing these natural feelings down internally may cause them to compound so much that your feelings may surface suddenly, seemingly without warning. This type of reaction may be more hurtful to your relationship than if you had just addressed the situation in a timely manner. Without the ability to express these emotions in a constructive and healthy way, your relationship may be damaged.
A counselor can help you (and your partner) by helping you to express your emotions in a safe and supportive environment. They can also help articulate your feelings in a different way that your partner can understand, may be more receptive to, and not feel offended by. Further, they can help improve your communication between one another by helping establish a healthier dialogue, including teaching you skills to problem-solve together more effectively.
It can Help You Identify and Address Underlying Childhood Trauma
Sometimes, the trauma you experience as a child can retreat to your unconscious mind and quietly influence how you feel and act, especially in situations that elicit a similar emotional response to the trauma that you underwent in your childhood. For example, if you were neglected as a child, you may now be overly clingy in your relationship. If you were physically or verbally abused as a child, you may be prone to aggression. Childhood trauma doesn’t excuse negative behavior, but it is a reason, and it can be treated. A counselor will use many different techniques to make the person move on from their childhood.
You could Discover a Diagnosis
You may be experiencing a mental health problem that you are unaware of. For example, you may have major depressive disorder, but feel like a marital issue is the source of your depressive symptoms, when they run much deeper than your marriage. Under the guidance of a marriage counselor, you can talk about your situations and symptoms, and you can help create a more complete emotional picture of yourself with your counselor, and they may come to a diagnosis. It is unwise to choose a counselor that will rush a diagnosis without due diligence, or enough insight. Diagnosing someone takes time and shouldn’t be treated lightly.
After you are diagnosed, a marriage counselor can help treat you.
Helps You Come Up with Goals
When you are experiencing emotional and mental difficulties, identifying any sort of motivation can be difficult. Coming up with a plan to achieve your goals may seem like an insurmountable nightmare. A counselor can help you by allowing you to come up with a plan that best suits your needs and skills – not only for the improvement of your marriage, but also personally and professionally. Throughout the plan’s implementation, your counselor will be able to help you modify your plan as you are working through it, if things need to be adjusted, or your goals change. They are a good source of non-judgmental support that can be relied upon to provide unbiased feedback.
You can Examine Your Marriage In-Depth
If you and/or your partner feel unhappy generally in your marriage, this can take a serious toll on your mental health. Every couple will go through hardships in their relationship, but if you feel that you are sad more often than not in your marriage, a counselor can help you salvage your relationship, if both you and your partner are willing. A marriage counselor can help identify, address, and work with you and your partner to resolve issues in your marriage. They may teach you communication skills, help you set a schedule to spend time with your partner throughout the week, assist with coming up with shared goals that you both can work towards, or simply just provide an open environment for you and your partner to connect.
Everyone deserves the best mental health for themselves as possible; sometimes, it can take hard work to improve it. No matter your situation, you can improve your mental health through counseling, medication, and/or self-help.
When you’re having a marital problem, you may need help right away. One way you can do this is by speaking to a professional online, from anywhere that you have connectivity. Online services such as BetterHelp provide you with around-the-clock counseling that can accommodate your busy schedules and help you to improve your marriage and ultimately live a better life for yourself, and together.